Last week right after I clocked in at work, I went to my boss’s office to give my resignation. That morning, he was in shock, of course. I’ve been only working for over two months at the company and there I was sitting across his desk telling him that this workplace is not for me. Over the years, with all the jobs I had, even though I didn’t like a couple of them, I liked the flexibility it offered to our family. As a mother of two young daughters, this is the most important thing I’m asking from a company I’m working for.

As new to my job and being a working mother, everything was overwhelming. The first month, I had to get off early and missed a whole day at work because of sick daughters. I’m a type of person who dislikes missing work. I can still force myself to come in to work even though I’m not feeling the best. It’s the work ethic I’ve learned for years. I always feel guilty that my absence would affect other coworkers. And I don’t like that. I explained to my boss that I don’t want to be a burden one of these days and taking a day off from work seems so hard. I contained myself not to cry in front of him. Because knowing myself, I don’t quit in a game right away. But after talking with my husband and self deliberation about quitting my job, I started typing my resignation letter.

I already contacted the librarian to see if I could come back to work even if it’s only part-time. She was so happy and said yes. But that morning when I talked to my boss at work about my resignation, he didn’t accept my decision right away. He didn’t even read the letter I wrote. He promised me that they’d work with my schedule and told me to think more about my resignation. That he wanted to talk to me a few days later and then tell him my decision.

I was in firm emotion that morning when I was handing him my resignation that no matter what he said or offered, still I would quit. I was ready to leave the company. I changed my mind the next morning. He had my other two coworkers to get trained to learn how to do my job, just in case I’m gone or need a time off, the pressure on me would be off too. He also lowered my sales quota which surprised me because I didn’t want my resignation be a leverage to gain something out of it. I wasn’t asking for a certain benefits or pay increase. As a working mother, all I want is flexibility. I told my boss that I have other life too. My world doesn’t only revolve at work. I have family and social life. Yes, I’m a reliable worker but not too dedicated. I value balance between work and life.

I remember back in July when he was interviewing me, he asked what are the three most important things I consider to take the job I was applying for. My answer was short: Work, company, boss & coworkers. He then asked to explain my answer. I told him for me to stay in a job, I should like the job itself. Then how the company treats its employees like me is also a deciding factor for me to keep the job. And lastly, no matter how I like my job and how nice the company to me, if I don’t get along with my boss and coworkers, I still won’t keep the job.

Right now, I’m liking my job more and I get along with my boss and coworkers. Our boss is nice to us. The only thing I need to stay with this job is to always have flexibility.

Photo: I bought food from Chinese restaurant and got this fortune cookie. I like what I got!

Have a positive and happy day, my readers!

Gladys Starkey


  1. Marie says:

    So you finally stayed? I respect you for making tough decisions in order to support your family better. A work-life balance is something that troubles us a lot in this day and age. Hope it all works out for the best Gladys.

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