I’m currently reading a book about Amish people ( I will post about this book later), for me, they are interesting in a lot of ways. What fascinated me about them is their simplicity. And while reading the book, the author highlighted that this is the group’s particular fine quality.
And I compared myself to them. I dealt with it with my life, until now, but somehow I overcome this step by step. Like, saying no to a lot of things that I know unnecessary for now. Being impulsive on buying material things.
I also read about the “marshmallow experiment” (talking about Psychology subject) back in ’60s and ’70s where they experimented on number of 4-year-old tots with marshmallows while sitting on a table and gave them two options; (1) ring the tester if they want to eat the marshmallow now, or (2) wait for 15 minutes until the tester returns and be rewarded for two marshmallows later.
Then, years later, the researchers tracked back those kids they experimented and found out that those kids who waited or chose option #2 showed advantage over those who didn’t wait. So those “delayers” are more matured, have higher SAT scores,have less behavioral problem and better adjusted.
It brings back the memory how I was raised. Back then, our grandmother always reminds us how important education is, and that is to have a better life. I resisted going to parties, we had “home-to-school-then-school-home” rule. No sidetracks except it’s a school related or a family events or any important and reasonable stuffs.
I was bombarded by ”don’t-do-this-and-don’t-do-that-or-else…”advice. And I believe the marshmallow experiment is true, when we learn how to resist on things, it’s a sign of maturity, we grow up and we understand what would be the effect if we do the opposite.
I was a teenager and few people told me how matured I talk and think. And I was like, maybe, I was surrounded by old people and that’s a possibility. But, I was oriented very young that if I couldn’t resist the temptation, I wouldn’t see the bigger plan I wanted.
I confessed here that I have a little bit of “impulsiveness” in my body, especially when it comes to “sale items”. Before,I never think twice buying them. I’m always like….”hmm…this is cheaper today and maybe tomorrow it’s gone”. Then, I would feel bad if I never used them, such a waste of money!
And now, I keep on practicing how to say no to my temptations (McDonald’s drive-thru anyone?),there were times I drove back and bought one just to scratch the itch. But after how many times I resisted myself, finally, I can say I’m getting good at it.
We want to get out of debt and this is my inspiration and if I’m not going to be a “delayer” this time, that inspiration will break down.
The same thing with our kids, I let them cry their heart out if they don’t get what they want. Needless to say, it would burn our crying pockets if we don’t teach them the marshmallow experiment. It also teaches them character.
Now my question is, are you a delayer too?