A book review: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

I have a journal where I write all my favorite quotes in life from happiness to confidence. I read it once in a while when I don’t feel motivated or if there’s something bothers me or when I feel I don’t want to do anything except navigating the internet for news or articles to read. So I decided to read something meaningful—What makes someone feel confident without being misunderstood?Or, what makes other people mentally tough?

Google gave me a link through lifehack.org about 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. I find it’s so interesting after reading the entire article because with books or articles I read about a related topic to this, most of them focus on what they do while this article gives us the opposite.

I checked our local library website if they have a copy of this book but unfortunately, they didn’t have one except an audio book. So I requested our local library to get a copy of this book but I had to wait for a few weeks until I can check it out. Last Monday, I just finished reading this book and I can say this is an exceptional book to read for everyone—teenagers, housewives, professionals, etc. I recommend this because this will help us know our capabilities and discover what possible potentials we have by simply training our mental strength.

The author, Amy Morin, is a clinical social worker and psychotherapist. Through her profession, she learned more about her patients’ personal issues and helped them overcome it. But writing this book stemmed not only from Amy’s profession but also from what she’s been through.

At the age of 23, Amy lost her mother from a brain aneurysm. Three years later, she lost her husband. Four years later, she found a new love but a year later, Amy’s father-in-law was diagnosed with cancer and the doctor told them that Amy’s father-in-law was only getting worse.

I’ve lost my grandfather when I was seventeen and it was one of the hardest points of my life because he was one of the closest people in my life. It took time for me to accept the reality that my grandfather was gone and I don’t know how someone—like Amy’s case— can deal with this kind of loss, a mother and her husband’s death in short period of time. I have so much respect for people who can handle tough situation like this because it takes a mental toughness for someone to deal with this kind of adversity. And that’s how Amy ended up writing what mentally strong people don’t do. And she came up with the magic number 13!

So here’s Amy’s list:

  1. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
  2. They don’t give away their power.
  3. They don’t shy away from change.
  4. They don’t focus on things they can’t control.
  5. They don’t worry about pleasing everyone.
  6. They don’t fear taking calculated risks.
  7. They don’t dwell on the past.
  8. They don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
  9. They don’t resent other people’s success.
  10. They don’t give up after the first failure.
  11. They don’t fear alone time.
  12. They don’t feel the world owes them anything.
  13. They don’t expect immediate results .

I love her list and it struck a chord on me. I hope you read this book or recommend this to a friend or someone who needs some tips on mental strength. It will really change your view in life, I promise!



How I keep myself motivated to exercise

Me this morning taking a “selfie” before my morning walk!

I woke up at 3:30 this morning at the girls’ bedroom after I fell asleep reading a book to Marie. I’m sure it was only 9 p.m. when we both fell asleep and because of that, both of us woke up too early. I asked Marie that we have to go back to sleep because it’s Monday and she has to go to school. I don’t want her to feel tired during the day and won’t learn much at school. But half an hour passed, I couldn’t go back to sleep. I decided to read a book on the couch and wait until my alarm goes off, at 5:30. I wanted to go for a walk rather than using the treadmill. So there I go got myself ready wearing a brown thick coat, black tearaway athletic pants, black stocking hat, bright yellow green tennis shoes and a pair of white gloves ( I know they don’t match but who cares, right?) but there was a rain shower when I stepped outside the house and I was worried that it would rain hard in the middle of my walking but luckily it didn’t seem like it.

So I decided to go…

At this time of the year, it’s still dark out even if it’s already 6 o’clock. I only relied on the light posts and the slight brightness on the road. It’s a mile walk from our house to the cemetery, so putting in two miles is a good start of my daily exercise.

Before there were days I dreaded to exercise especially this early in the morning. But my goal of working out at least an hour a day keeps me going because I know down the road, it’s for my own health benefits. One reason why I’m motivated to exercise is because of our neighbor who is retired. He has a strong mindset when it comes to being active and healthy. As a matter of fact, we talk more about working out, eating habits, and being healthy.

Our neighbor starts working out the time I wake up. He rides on his stationary bike at home then goes for a mile walk. So every time I see him turns on his way around, I start chasing him. I start running until I catch him then we walk together and talk until I’m in front of our house.

Dedication and patience are the recipe of keeping motivated if I want to stay healthy (as they say, think like a professional athlete!). So if our neighbor can do this every morning at this early hour, I can do it too!

Keeping my focus and mind into this fitness goal is always possible because I have the choice.

Hope you have a great start of the week, my dear readers!



Friday play date

The girls don’t have school today because of the state wrestling. A week ago, we made a plan for them to make this day fun and productive. Olivia’s friend came over this morning so that they can play together. This is the second time they have their friends come over for a play date even if it’s only for a few hours. This is something that the girls enjoy because they rarely get a friend to come over and play. The only time they get a chance to play with other kids is when they’re at school or we go to a party, get-together, or visit a friend’s house. Olivia’s friend arrived (with her parents) before 10 a.m.

One of the activities on my list for them is to take them to the library for a story time but I had to work today at 10 a.m. to help. So I asked my husband to watch the girls for an hour and he can drop them off at the library at 11 a.m.; story time is at 11:15 a.m. The girls enjoyed the Five Little Monkeys story. Then they did craft and each kid took home coloring pages and treat!

Once we got back home, the girls played outside because the weather is nice (60 degrees!). We spent a little bit time outside then we ordered pizza for lunch (half pepperoni, half sausage) which I got for free since I had enough coupons to pay for it.

For the rest of the day, the girls played inside the house watching a movie, drawing, playing the dollhouse while Marie was doing puzzles.

Play date rarely happens in our house that’s why the girls asked me if they can invite their friend to come over again because it was fun.

If our schedule works out just like today, why not, right?

I hope you have a happy and safe weekend, everyone!


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