I have a journal where I write all my favorite quotes in life from happiness to confidence. I read it once in a while when I don’t feel motivated or if there’s something bothers me or when I feel I don’t want to do anything except navigating the internet for news or articles to read. So I decided to read something meaningful—What makes someone feel confident without being misunderstood?Or, what makes other people mentally tough?
Google gave me a link through lifehack.org about 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. I find it’s so interesting after reading the entire article because with books or articles I read about a related topic to this, most of them focus on what they do while this article gives us the opposite.
I checked our local library website if they have a copy of this book but unfortunately, they didn’t have one except an audio book. So I requested our local library to get a copy of this book but I had to wait for a few weeks until I can check it out. Last Monday, I just finished reading this book and I can say this is an exceptional book to read for everyone—teenagers, housewives, professionals, etc. I recommend this because this will help us know our capabilities and discover what possible potentials we have by simply training our mental strength.
The author, Amy Morin, is a clinical social worker and psychotherapist. Through her profession, she learned more about her patients’ personal issues and helped them overcome it. But writing this book stemmed not only from Amy’s profession but also from what she’s been through.
At the age of 23, Amy lost her mother from a brain aneurysm. Three years later, she lost her husband. Four years later, she found a new love but a year later, Amy’s father-in-law was diagnosed with cancer and the doctor told them that Amy’s father-in-law was only getting worse.
I’ve lost my grandfather when I was seventeen and it was one of the hardest points of my life because he was one of the closest people in my life. It took time for me to accept the reality that my grandfather was gone and I don’t know how someone—like Amy’s case— can deal with this kind of loss, a mother and her husband’s death in short period of time. I have so much respect for people who can handle tough situation like this because it takes a mental toughness for someone to deal with this kind of adversity. And that’s how Amy ended up writing what mentally strong people don’t do. And she came up with the magic number 13!
So here’s Amy’s list:
- They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
- They don’t give away their power.
- They don’t shy away from change.
- They don’t focus on things they can’t control.
- They don’t worry about pleasing everyone.
- They don’t fear taking calculated risks.
- They don’t dwell on the past.
- They don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
- They don’t resent other people’s success.
- They don’t give up after the first failure.
- They don’t fear alone time.
- They don’t feel the world owes them anything.
- They don’t expect immediate results .
I love her list and it struck a chord on me. I hope you read this book or recommend this to a friend or someone who needs some tips on mental strength. It will really change your view in life, I promise!